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Do You REALLY Care about Your Family?

Do you care about your spouse? Does it matter to you what your children will become? Not what they will do for work – but who they will be – what they will become.

What legacy you are leaving for your grandchildren?

Happy family preparing a healthy dinner at home.

In our parenting journey, Sarah and I have noted essentials for healthy families. Every family can do these!

Discover and pursue their dreams

If you are spending significant quality time with family members, then it’s likely that you are intimately familiar with their ambitions, passions, and dreams. And when you are, you can help them fulfill those dreams.

Nearly every day I do something or say something to help my wife and children take the next step in the pursuit of their passions.

This is important – these are not MY dreams for them. Rather I’m encouraging them to pursue the calling and the passion that lies within them.

Consequently, I must regularly assess my understanding of their dreams as they evolve. And I must evaluate my motivations for challenging them to move forward.

Independence

This area was particularly challenging for me because of my tendency to be too engaged in most everything.

I’m a problem-solver. So I naturally want to fix problems – some before they even occur.

But my problem-solving occasionally robs others of valuable life experiences. So I’ve had to learn to back off of problem-solving and allow others to grow through their experiences.

When Madison was very young I began allowing her more and more freedom to make healthy decisions – decisions about spending and saving, planning family trips, getting involved in athletics, doing chores.

This week she told Sarah and me about a product that she’d like to invent and how she plans to do it. Another evening she drafted a simple plan for a business she’d like to start.

In reality, she often falls short of her ambition. And that’s ok – because failing facilitates growth.

I want those closest to me to know that I believe in their dreams. And I want them to know that I will do everything possible to support them. More than anything, I want to challenge them to follow their calling with abandon.

Pursue spirituality

I’m not sure if it’s your style or not – but Sarah and I encourage Madison to pursue spirituality. As a result, she loves church. She loves to read Scripture. She loves to pray with us…

Over the past 2 months our family has experienced a significant transition which included moving 1300 miles to a new home and community. So our schedules got all out of whack.

Prior to our transition we’d been praying with Madison every night. (We pray at other times throughout the day too – but our bedtime prayers have become a special time for us.)

This week we’re finally getting back into a routine. So last night I laid down with Madison to pray. She went first – “God, I know we haven’t prayed in a while…” Whoops!

I love that she understands the importance of faith and that it plays a significant role in her life.

It’s a non-negotiable, a top priority for us.

This post is part of the series – Non-Negotiables For a Healthy Family
Part 1: Family – It Doesn’t Have to be This Way

Question: What non-negotiable would you add to the list? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Article by Michael Nichols

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Patriotism Pt.3 – My Responsibility to My Children

I am deeply burdened about the future of my children and grandchildren. The world they will inherit is completely different from the world in which I grew up. Because of selfishness and a complete lack of character from earlier generations, we are handing over a broken nation. It is broken financially, emotionally, philosophically, physically, but most of all spiritually.

I am encouraged by the resolve of some of the next generation. There seems to be somewhat of a resurgence to simplicity and honesty that is refreshing. They are not impressed with our vision of the American dream. They are seeking a religion that is real, led by people who are honest, reaching people who are hurting. To them, it is not about having the biggest, most expensive anything. It is more about making a difference.

Below are five quick thoughts for you to consider. We have a responsibility to our children:

  1. Not to strangle them with person or national debt.

They need to be led by example to pay our bills and not have more than we can afford. They need to be trained to pay as you go and as you can afford it.

  1. To secure them a safe place to live.

We need to stand for a strong defense and not be ashamed of promoting an America that will defend itself and its allies.

  1. To protect their freedom of worship.

In recent years there has been an attack on Christianity. We must take a stand for freedom of religion in America, without apology.

  1. To give them an opportunity for a good education.

Our nation is the most industrialized in the world, yet we seem to find ourselves far down the list educationally.

  1. To teach them not to rely on government.

Government is a tool not the center point of our lives. When we live our lives based on biblical principles we will individually learn to do what the government was never designed to do.

  1. To lead them to love God with all their heart.

The next generation will have no chance of survival without a return to God and the fundamentals of godliness. The two greatest commandments are to love God and love our neighbor.

These are basic tenants of what I believe to be the formula for turning our nation back in the right direction.

Article by Rodney Agan

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